if i had the guts i would tell my mother in law everytime she told me that men in her sons place do not assist their wives and do not take care of their children and so on and so forth; i would tell her that it is completely unislamic and it is wronging their family in the worst way. i would tell her that this kind of lifestyle is nothing to proud of or to be shared with me at every possible instance and it is no excuse for anything her son does or does not do. i would also tell her that nobody in their place is living with no less than 5 servants in the house in which case a man's assistance is rarely needed. And that is not my case. i would also tell her it wouldnt kill a guy in the family to change and accept a lifestyle that is different from theirs. is it only a woman who must change all the time? a carefree teenager who must tranform into a responsible housewife and then a caring full time mother? what about the guys? isnt it about time that they put away their childish irresponsible ways and act their age? isnt it about time that they at least try to become a father?
infuriated. having these words inside my head with no way of them making it out is infuriating me. Allah give me patience. ameen.
